real love

Real Love never needs a dozen roses and a nice car for the first date, and it doesn't start out with the lobster and chardonnay. Real Love won't lie in the heat of the moment to have its way, and it never uses all the right words to get what it wants. Real Love usually takes things slowly and gets better with age.

Real Love smiles even when it's unfashionable to do so and never holds back tears. It looks good without makeup on and isn't afraid to go out in public unprepared. Real Love quit rambling on about nothing a long time ago and doesn't worry that it might not have anything to say right now. Real Love looks you in the eye during the awkward silences.

When it's treated cruelly or quietly snubbed, Real Love never turns inward or burns spitefully. It never calls up mutual friends to vent in anger or stoops to pettiness to have its revenge. Real Love doesn't lie to itself about the way things really are, and it doesn't worry that its time may never come around.

Real Love is quietly hopeful and devastatingly kind. It's always on time, and it doesn't quit just because the shift is over. Real Love is surprising, like a night out under the stars. And though it usually prefers the softest touches, Real Love has strength enough to fend off all other suitors.

Real Love is not a gamble, a ruse or a phase. It's not faddish or shallow, too young or too old. It's cross-cultural and counter-cultural and sub-cultural. It doesn't favor big bank accounts or the most beautiful faces, and it rarely comes around when it's not called. Real Love likes the lowest voices and shows little respect for the big booming ones, though it doesn't count them out just because they don\'t get it right now.

Real Love is a movement, an affection and an arrow pointing home; it is a peace, a precept and a personality. It knows about forever and ever, and it works just fine in the now and the here. And Real Love doesn't need a clever tag line at the end to get its point across one last time.

by Eric Hurtgen
(i made the phrases bold..)

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an expansion of 1 cor 13.4-13. this article touched my heart when i read it. it said all the things i want to express & is an eye opener in things i've never thought of. REAL LOVE only can come from God because he first loved us (John 4.19) and it's only because he loved us that we can show His love to others.

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comments:

Freakspace on 02 September 2005 at 06.59
Pf...who has real love then? Where is this 'real love', because on a human:human level, I'm sure I've never seen it. Sorry...I just...well, I don't know anything. Not anything at all. Especially not about love!

anGe on 02 September 2005 at 14.50
real love sucks! haha just kidding. I'm a hopeless romantic! Oh how I look forward to the day when my prince charming ( that likes watching sunsets and star gazing) will ride up to me in his shining armour, on his white horse and whisk me away to a land far, far away ... *sighz* Only one could dream...

wrapped up a group assignment in the morning then lunch with mum. a rarity these days. it's nice to sit down with er to do some heart to heart youneettocleanyourroomandpullupyoursocks talk.

i was so bored in the arvo that i partially cleaned my room. sorry kaiwin! mum was getting a bit narky at the state of my room that i've decided i should at least do some tidying. looks like you won't be able to see my room in al tis chaotic disorderness (i don't think that's a proper word...). it actually looks more messy than it was before i tidied it...sigh.

finally handed in my assignment!! after staying up til 1am to do it. it's the most last minute assignment i've ever done and that's the latest i've ever stayed up and probably will ever stay up for an assignment.

dancingnow.

i'm so hyperactive at the moment. just wait. it will come crashing down by 11am. i'll be the one with my face stuck to my desk and drool all over my notes.

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Freakspace on 30 august 2005 at 07.01
Ey Deb, good for you! Finishing more work, you're real @$$ kicker, you are! I'm having some days off, because...well I thought I was going to be working but no one's called me up. This is no good...can't get $$ from slacking! LAters.

Above all else, guard your heart,
for it affects everything you do.
proverbs 4.23 (nlt)

why is it the more i decide i don't want to think of him, the more i think of him?

there are so many things occupyin gmy mind at the moment and i have to think of HIM! sometimes, i don't know whether i like him for the sake of liking someone or that i truly do like him. the hardest thing to evaluate is your emotions. they play a havoc on your life whenever it suits them and nothing ever gets done in those moments. my friends give me the you'dbettercheckyourselfintoamentalinstitution look whenever i jump around for no reason they know of.

life is so complicated!

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Mikey the bombbomb killa! on 28 august 2005 at 03.44
Rahaha! *sings* Debbie's got a boooyfrieend, Deeeebbieee's GOT A BOY FRIEEEEND!! Sorry...so, who's this guy?? He better be a good guy, or I'll be giving you the assessyourmentalstate or whatever it is your friends said. You know what I think? I think, no matter what a crush is REALLY FUN! You don't even have to do anything about it! It's like a drug, whenever you remember this 'someone' you're like *sigh* and it feels GREAT!! I wish I had crush that was achievable...haha. Have fun, see you when I see you next.

finally finished the physiotherapy practice poster on gender issues. FINALLY! i thought we would never finish. for this assignment, it's going to cost me $20 for printing and laminating. this is the most i've spent and will ever spend on an assignment. we'd better win a year's worth of strapping tape or something to that extent. i can't remember what the grand prize is going to be. we'd better win after all the effort we girls put into it. very tempted to make the slacker in our team pay for more.

one down, two to go.

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Mikatronic (Homepage) on 26 august 2005 at 06.58
Heyas Deb, congratulations on finishing an assignment. To me, that's a big thing. When I was in uni, I nearly did no work at all...so here I am trying to learn carpentry. This is a good lesson for every academic or would-be out there. DO YOUR WORK, OR SUFFER ACADEMIC BANISHMENT!! As for me, this weekend I head home to my country hometown. This will be good, I get to see my Ma again, and Kaiwin and Bibi are gonna be there too. Well, have a good weekend. LAters!

there are three assignments chasing me with the intention to kill

i am so sleep deprived...

one of these days, i'l lhave to sleep till dinner to catch up on all the sleep i'v emissed in the last six months but i doubt i'll be able to last till noon.

for some reason, i can never sleep past noon.

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Freakspace on 24 august 2004 at 08.28
Heyas Deb! You better feel privaligeded or whatever the hell that word is meant to be! I just set up a whole new account with these 20six freaks, just to write on your blog! Huff huff! Are you doing well with your assignments? That Kaiwin guy has like five or something due in a couple of weeks...that sort of thing makes me sooo glad I'm not doing the type of schooling where they can issue homework! Rahahah! Hope you get some proper rest soon, yeah?

me on 24 august 2005 at 12.49
i didn't know you had to sign up to comment...uh, welcome to my blog!!

wise words of cushion

mysterious men = high risk

to be at low risk, go for someone you know.

if all else fails, surrender to a life of celibacy.

echoing in the distance:

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

back to uni today.

i'm back to walking up the unending escalators in melbourne central. my exercise, five times a week for these next two weeks. my knees felt a bit funny...like they haven't been oild for a while. and avioding taking the train between 2.30 and 3.30pm. that's when all the schoolkids come on and i won't be able to get any sleep or listen to my cds.

it's weird not to be in my normal clinic uniform during the week. at least it's three weeks of no prioritising patients, figuring out what problems we have to treat or trying to change the way i walk so my feet wouldn't ache so much.

i'm so over assignments...and group work. did you know there's at tleast one other person in a group that is a slacker (unless you make up a group with people you know ill do work)? that so happens to be the only boy in my group. most of the time, i have to stop short of throttling him.

need to start on the essay. that's due on monday that i haven't started. at least it's only 1000 words.

easypeasy.

i had a fine weekend to take my mind off the results for the neuro clinic. thanks to kaiwin, mikey and bibi for their hilarious antics and strategies to kill zombies. i never knew that you could starve a zombie and it will just shut down. makes an interesting dinner conversation, tho.

war of the worlds was not bad. if we decided to watch house of wax, i would have closed my eyes and cried, not to mention screaming for an unnaturally long time...actually, i don't scream. i whimper. i don't think i've ever screamed in my entire life. i was bitting my nails when they were running and hiding and running and being eaten...ewww!!

going to bed exhausted gives a good sleep.

i'm exhausted.

going to bed now.

currently chucking a fit

ugh! i despise clinics. there's no standard way to makr students and everything is so subjective. how can the mar how well you learn??? isn't it suppost to be a learning experience?? i guess exams & stuff test how well you learn but what is the continuous clinical assessment?? it's more like it'sthelastweekwe'dbettergivethestudentssomemarks thing. what would they do if a student is slow in learning? give them lower marks. if there's not enough opportunity to display a certain skill? hmm...0/5 = needs maximum assistance. didn't see them displaying a certain skill...definately the lowest mark possible. i really feel like chucking a fit or burn a building that costs a few billion dollars to build (i'm not a pyro...really).

because of all these, i'm trying to compose a speech on the unfairness of my clinical marking system, probably oblivious to the fact that they would have spent months...even years trying to perfect the marking system. but nothing can be perfect, can they?

life is never perfect.

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kaiwin90 on 22 august 2005 at 03.29
Keeping up with where you're at through your blog. I like how you write!
-Kaiwin

hosanna

let the weak say i am strong
let the poor say i am rich
let the blind say i can see
it's what the Lord has done in me

finally! exams are finished! for this block anyway. it was only by the grace of God that i passed my clinical exam. i thought i would fail! i forgot so many things. and i think i got UNSATISFACTORY for safety...which is a pretty big thing considering patients can fall and break something...or DIE!!!

i had a really good conversation with a good friend of mine about bgr. i think it's the uncertainty of who we will end up with that gets to me. he was just worried that she'll lose interest in him. conclusion was guys like girls with a smile (smile = genuine happiness/positivenes) and girls like guys with a plan. haha. pretty general but in a way true.

everywhere i look, there are people being affectionate, especially to one of the opposite sex (sometimes mum and infant..like the two i saw on the tram. their interaction made me smile but what an ugly baby!). there's this yearning in me to want someone i can care and be worried about (not in the jealous way) but there's also the part of me that enjoys being free to do anything i want and not be tied down to a relationship. btw, being tied down is not that bad. there are probably perks of which i don't know of due to the fact that i've never been in a relationship.

looking forward to going back to uni next week. at least there's snoring in lectures that are really important and time to be brain-dead for most of the day. zombies, we all are.

hmm...

dan commented that he thought this guy like me. male intuition, he said. this coming from someone that lacks the experience in this particular area.

how do you tell the other person you like him without him knowing?

and how can you tell if he likes you?

i missed playing at gravitate. not that i haven't played in a long time but i think that i've been doing it for so long that missing a week...you get what i mean, not that i don't enjoy playing in the focus band ...just different people, different feel, i guess.

mum and i have been talking quite a bit about this year & where i'm heading. i'm still struggling with studies and doing my quiet time. mum thinks that this is the year where i'm being challenged not only academically but spiritually as well. i think i agree. most of the time, i find it so difficult to read the bible, or pray for that matter.

last month, surge had a series with mark sayers. i went to the one about why people are more prone to leaving the faith at certain ages. we live in an agnostic society where every need is provided for and no room for God. everything is about pleasing the self now and turnover is high. this liquidity means no commitments to things of the long term. those who step away are usually at crossroads, like transitions between highschool & uni, uni & work, work & retirement, etc.

i think i'm at a crossroad in my life at the moment. i'm experiencing the working life (although i'm still learning & have a year to go) and managing my time between study and non-study activities are tough. i've never been great at managing my own time but i'm starting to learn.

i think.

don't put the drums too close...my ears hurt

i think i was blinking. angela called me a serial blinker. haha. she's taken too many photos of me that end up with me with my eyes half closed.

i like this photo of me. missions conference was great in terms of the focus band growing closer & stepping out in faith. it was the first time we've played in front of the entire church together. most of us play in other services with other bands. the fact that us growing in unity & in our skills show that God had a hand in this. each of us were hand picked to be in this team, to encourage each other.

i don't think i want to do the whole weekend of music with assessments and exams to worry about but i think i will have to do that again...with collision coming up.

soft tissue damage, she said

i fell down the stairs of thursday. about ten steps in total. it was a good thing i wasn't a seventy yearold or my left neck of femur would have been fractured. haha. that's what one of the gr two physios said to me. riiight. it hurts tho. i though there would be a bruise forming on the side of my bottom but it just hurts. plus, there's a lump on my foot. i think the heel of my boot contacted with it. no bruising there either but lots of swelling tho.

one more week of clinics!!

illegal recipient of love

typical paparazzi pose. the red thing is a fluffy heart shaped pillow tied with helium balloons but i think the attempt to float it towards the subject failed so it was just given to him. by whom? only he knows. he is not divulging any information at the moment. we'll be back shortly.

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anGe on 02 september 2005 at 14.54
bet ya that's Aaron! He's soooooooooo photogenic *cough* haha

why is it everytime i'm so busy with other stuff when exams draw near? sigh. i think i need more hours in a day, more days in a week and more weeks in a year to fit all the things i want to do in...including bumming around at home doing nothing.

maybe one day can be doing that, five days of school/studies, three days for church, two for work, and last but not least, another one to annoy the beans out of my brother.

i'm ranting coz i'm bored and stressed with clinics. i can't wait for this to be over.

sigh.